Ask Beastly: What’s the Best Kit for Training My Hole?
Skip the kits. Get a goal toy. Go slow.
Best kit for training my hole? I want to eventually take a fist/horse cock *dildo*. Loved your book. I’d be lying if a part of me didn’t fall for you. You’re an incredible person and beyond inspiring. Working on becoming more comfortable in my own skin and getting over my anxieties, then the sex world will be mine 😈
Howdy.
That’s very kind. Thanks for reading my book. I put a lot of love and work into it, and it’s the proudest thing I’ve ever done. Please keep telling people about it, and please leave me a review on Amazon or Goodreads.
Even after being a sex worker for a decade, I am still learning how to live in my skin and love it. That’s life.
I assume you’re looking for a specific product, perhaps a link to a product page, or something you can purchase now. Sadly, I don’t have that. Most anal training kits I’ve seen, in stores and online, I can’t recommend. They often include basic, tapering butt plugs that increase in size, but for advanced bottoms and aspiring fist bottoms, they are too small. Usually, they are made of TPR or TPE—materials I don’t like.
Here’s what I do. Good, premium-quality sex toys—like ones from Topped Toys, SquarePeg, Mister B, and others—are expensive, so I don’t buy them very often. I keep one or two plugs that are within my comfortable size range and enjoy them often, both with others and alone. I also keep a deeper toy to work on depth. At any given time, I only have one “goal” toy—something I can’t fully take, but am working up to it.
When I master a “goal” toy, it just becomes a toy. Over time, the smaller ones get thrown out or cleaned and given to friends. My toys grow with my hole—slowly, over years. To get started: Buy a smallish, premium silicone butt plug that’s a little wider than the fattest dick you’ve ever taken but not longer, and start with it for width training. Go slow. Use more lube than you think is necessary. Buy an insertable—not necessarily a penis-shaped dildo, but rather somethign soft, smooth, bendy, and designed for anal play—that is longer than the longest dick you’ve ever taken, but not as wide as the plug, and start there. Both should be soft, not stiff—flexible, not rigid.
Even after you can take these toys with ease, don’t run out and buy more. Really enjoy these. Enjoy the feeling of them. Master them. Most importantly, involve them in your play sessions with others. Inevitably, you’ll buy bigger ones. Don’t rush it. You don’t need to plan the evolution of your ass over the next ten years. You just need the next goal toy. Spend time (like, a year) on one or two toys. Use them a lot.
If you rush out too soon to buy new ones, you’re trying to stretch faster than your ass can handle, and that’s a recipe for serious injury—for anal fissures, scar tissue, and more—which will, in the end, just slow you down, or force you to stop entirely.
The goal is to increase slowly. That may not be exciting, but that’s how to grow your butt for life.
The sex world is already yours. There is no threshold of bottoming you must reach in order to “make it.” Porn guys competing on Twitter for the nonexistent title of “most intense bottom” might make you think you must reach a certain level to enjoy sex, but that culture—that competition—leads only to stress and severe hospital visits. Enjoy where you are now. Enjoy where your butt is now.
If you enjoy what you can do in the present, you will grow naturally. If you focus on taking more—bigger, deeper—you won’t enjoy the journey and just get hurt.
There’s no sexual valhalla at the end where guys who can take horse cock dildos frolic in the clouds—because there’s no end. There’s just more sex, more life, if you want it. The only people for whom this journey stops are those who, sadly, get injured and develop scar tissue in the rectum and colon. Scar tissue cannot stretch. These poor souls are stopped forever from going further by their own eagerness. There are real, physical repercussions for pushing too hard, too quickly.
Enjoy the journey, not the destination. Enjoy your butt where it is now. Without any goal except feeling good, you will be wowed at how far pleasure takes you.
Love, Beastly