Ask Beastly: What If I Want Intimacy, Not Porn Sex?

I promise: there are men out there who want that, too.

Hey Alex,

I'm a bicurious college student with a lot of anxiety about sex. I have a crush on this guy (first time that's happened), and I keep thinking about having sex with him and with other guys, but I'm not sure I'm ready. I ventured into porn and was freaked out by how rough it is. I want sex to be gentle and sweet, two people making love in each ot…