Ask Beastly: Do Sex Workers Fake Attraction?

I used to, but that doesn’t mean the connections weren't real.

I’m Alexander Cheves, and this is LOVE, BEASTLY—a blog about sex, feelings, and manhood. It’s written mostly for men—gay, straight, bi, MSM, or just curious—but some readers are women, and some don’t fit into categories. Everyone’s welcome here.

I answer real, reader-submitted questions about sex, kink, desire, and intimacy.

Want to ask something? Email your question to askbeastly@gmail.com. I never share names, emails, or anything personal—every question is answered anonymously, always.

This post includes a free preview. Subscribe to unlock the full answer and access every post dating back to 2013.

---

Beastly,

Recently, I was wondering what sex workers' perception of the client is? Do sex workers have attraction towards them? Do they fake signs of attraction?

Sorry if this question was asked before, and thanks for doing this blog.

Mark

Hi Mark,

It really depends on the sex worker.

For transparency: I was a sex worker for many years. Some sex workers certainly don't like their clients at all, and generally speaking, I was not one—I tried to create authentic, genuine connections with my clients. I liked them—as people, as individuals—and I think they usually liked me. That said, sex work is a business.

Sex work involves things that, for most people, happen at home, outside of working life. Sex, intimacy, kink: these things are removed from most people's idea of work, and from most professional environments, so the general population has a hard time seeing them commercially—and, when done well, sex work experiences feel personal. But sex, intimacy, and kink are professional environments for sex workers. Few people wonder if their banker or accountant genuinely likes them, but sex workers are asked all the time if they "genuinely like" their clients. Why does it matter?