Ask Beastly: I Want to Cruise in Leather, but Kink Scares Me

Leather isn’t a costume. It’s a community built on consent, not assumptions.

Hi. I’ve been considering getting into leather. This isn’t because I find it particularly attractive compared to other outfits — other guys can be just as sexy. But because I’ve noticed on cruises that the leather parties seem more cruisy with guys having sex and going up to their cabins. The trouble is — I know it is strongly associated with BDSM and I…