Ask Beastly: I Need to Use Condoms. Why Is That a Dealbreaker?

Bareback isn’t for everyone, and that’s okay.

Hey Alex,

I love your work. My story is a bit graphic, so bear with me. A few years ago, I had bareback sex with a guy I met on Grindr. We were both drunk and most likely didn't use enough lube, so I got a tear. I thought it would heal by itself — I'd had that happen to me before — but instead, it became infected and evolved into a painful abscess that h…