Ask Beastly: Can I Get Fisted If I Have Haemorrhoids?

Be honest with your doctor—and gentle with your butt.

Hi beastly!

Your content is really great, and I like how you keep it clean and simple. I have a question that I couldn't find any significant answer around the internet, so I'd like to ask you. I have small internal piles, they don't bleed tho, but sometimes I can feel a little pain after pooping. That said, I like fisting. I used to practice a couple of years ago, but because of this condition, I have a fear that it could make it worse. What do you think? Have you ever faced this situation before?

Cheers!

Babe,

I am not a doctor. If you are experiencing pain, talk to a doctor. A doctor at a sexual health clinic can give you an examination, or they might refer you to a colorectal expert—someone who can give you the “all clear” for ass play.

Though full transparency with a physician is always the better course, you don’t have to tell the doctor you want to fist. Urban doctors in gay clinics, the type who’ve seen it all, will know what fisting is and should not freak out about it, but some doctors might, and telling them runs the risk of them saying (falsely) that fisting is causing all your butt problems. It’s not—fisting is pretty safe when done correctly and safely—but people who don’t know that tend to see it as something extreme and dangerous.

If you think your doctor will react strongly, you can always just say you want to have anal sex and your partner is well-endowed, so you need to know if it’s safe to try bottoming for him. If you cannot comfortably talk to your doctor about basic penis-in-ass sex without fearing judgment, you need to find a new doctor immediately.

I’ve never had any major butt troubles—no fissures, haemorrhoids, or stuff like that—which makes me lucky. This is, I guess, because of lucky genes; some butts are just more problem-prone than others. But also, I take good care of my butt. You should, too. I take breaks and don’t push it when I know I’m sore and used. I know my limits. I am grateful that my ass has been able to play this long and hard without many issues. We have the butts we have and must take care of them. To do that, we need doctors who know what we do and what we want to do. Find one.

Love, Beastly